Anonymous asked:

how do you and or your followers deal with being labeled as unattractive for being a poc? even though i avoid white people, white standards are pervasive as fuck and i'm tired of feeling ugly.

caprediem:

euthanizeallwhitepeople:

I saw this quote on Tumblr and I think it about sums up how I feel when people say “Asians / Asian men are unattractive”

That is: You thinking i’m not attractive, is not going to stop me from being attractive.

Boom.

So this ask actually hits real close to home because I’ve dealt with this shit for pretty much my entire life.

White beauty standards are fucking gross. 
But I think what’s worse is as POC, we not only have to measure up to white beauty standards but we have the added bonus of racial caricatures. That shit fucked me up real bad. 

This meant (to name a few):

  • Looking at every photo and thinking my eyes were too small and hating them cause some fuckers decided to tell me to open my eyes as wide as possible and then laughed and said, “Wow that’s the biggest they’ll go?” (I know realize that my eyes are actually pretty big so idk what them fuckers were talking about. And like small eyes aren’t ugly???? They cute.)
  • Growing up thinking, “Fuck. My monolids.” As well as STRUGGLING REAL HARD to apply eye make up cause like ???? there are no good tutorials for that shit?
  • Thinking I couldn’t dye my hair certain colors cause it would look tacky.
  • Thinking I was too short.
  • Thinking my deep brown eyes were boring and ugly.
  • Thinking I wasn’t “pretty enough” for an Asian (and later on with the fucking rise of kpop, Korean) girl.
  • Thinking being called “pretty for an Asian chick” was a compliment.
  • Wishing I was white.

Like w o w. I was on some other level self-hate. But I mean…it happens. Here are some things that may help:

  1. Accept every compliment you receive. Do not try to deny it, even if if you don’t believe it. Then, repeat the words back to yourself. Let them sink in. Soak in the positivity. 
  2. Every time you feel ugly, dissect that shit. Ask yourself why you feel ugly and where that’s coming from. 100% of the time, it’s nonsense. But unless you actually spell it out for yourself, those thoughts will take over. Cut them up and leave them out to dry before they drain you. Do not give them power.
  3. For each negative thought you have about your appearance, think of at least two to counter it. If you can’t think of any, ask your friends.
  4. Take selfies. LOTS and LOTS of selfies. Do not delete them.
  5. Make yourself look at your face and body. Check yourself out. Do  a little dance in the mirror. Make funny faces. Get used to seeing your reflection. Trust me, it helps.
  6. Compliment yourself.
  7. If you feel that you can’t call yourself beautiful yet, repeat this mantra: “I am not ugly.” One day, you will truly believe it. It took me 20 years but it happened. I still have down days and I don’t quite think I’m pretty but I don’t think I’m ugly. And that, in and of itself, is huge.
  8. Give yourself a break. Purging beauty standard BS out of your mind takes time and you’re not gonna think you’re not ugly overnight. I mean it’d be fucking great if that were possible but…realistically, that shit is not gonna happen. So don’t beat yourself up for not “progressing fast enough”. It’s okay. You’ll get there.
  9. Recognize that white beauty standards are another form of oppression. Recognize that you will never be white. I know that this seems like a “duh.” kind of thing but repeat that several times and let it really sink in. 
  10. Recognize that racial stereotypes/caricatures do not define you. 
  11. Recognize that you’re not here for anyone. And by that, I mean: It’s not your job to be “pretty” or “beautiful” for anyone but yourself. Once you kinda accept this, you start to care less.

I feel like I rambled but I really hope this somewhat helps, anon. I know it’s not easy and while I’m a lot better than I was, I still have a lot of off days/moments. I wish you the best of luck and I hope one day you will believe me when I say, “You are beautiful.” 



you-wish-you-had-this-url:

catp0rn:

this is it. this is the most important gif on tumblr.com

no okay but let me tell you a story
so at school I’m generally a pretty quiet person. I talk to a few people, I have a few friends, but I keep to myself a lot. So anyway, during lunch I’m on tumblr mobile, and this thing comes up. I put the gif onto full screen, and kind of half laugh at it. Then this guy who I have literally never talked to before walks by and then slowly back up and starts looking at my phone screen. I try to explain what I’m looking at, but really, how the hell do you explain this? Anyway, he waves over one of his friends so his friend comes over and looks at it. I’m still sitting in my chair, and we are all still completely silent. Soon more people begin to gather. 12 people, to be exact. 12 people, many of which I have never spoken to before, standing in a large, silent, ritual-esque circle around my iphone which is playing this gif on loop. After about five minutes, the first guy goes “how long is this?” and I was like “uh, its, um, its a gif, so it kind of goes on forever.” he nods and says “perfect”. These were the only words spoken throughout this whole event.

you-wish-you-had-this-url:

catp0rn:

this is it. this is the most important gif on tumblr.com

no okay but let me tell you a story

so at school I’m generally a pretty quiet person. I talk to a few people, I have a few friends, but I keep to myself a lot. So anyway, during lunch I’m on tumblr mobile, and this thing comes up. I put the gif onto full screen, and kind of half laugh at it. Then this guy who I have literally never talked to before walks by and then slowly back up and starts looking at my phone screen. I try to explain what I’m looking at, but really, how the hell do you explain this? Anyway, he waves over one of his friends so his friend comes over and looks at it. I’m still sitting in my chair, and we are all still completely silent. Soon more people begin to gather. 12 people, to be exact. 12 people, many of which I have never spoken to before, standing in a large, silent, ritual-esque circle around my iphone which is playing this gif on loop. After about five minutes, the first guy goes “how long is this?” and I was like “uh, its, um, its a gif, so it kind of goes on forever.” he nods and says “perfect”. These were the only words spoken throughout this whole event.

nisfi:

i love how racists say they have an “unpopular opinion” like um no actually your opinion is so popular that there is an entire structure of oppression based around it that controls the entire country cool story

So what? You failed your finals. You gained some weight. So what? You’re single again. You lost your job. So what? What now? You live. You try again. That’s what.

Unknown (via blackbruise)

One victim of the “game” said: “I was attacked by two white men and from the beginning they let me know they hated my people … And they let me know that the rape of a ‘squaw’ by white men was practically honored by white society. In fact, it had been made into a video game called ‘Custer’s Last Stand’ [sic]. They held me down and as one was running the tip of his knife across my face and throat he said, ‘Do you want to play Custer’s Last Stand ? It’s great, you lose but you don’t care, do you? You like a little pain, don’t you, squaw?’ They both laughed and then he said, ‘There is a lot of cock in Custer’s Last Stand. You should be grateful, squaw, that All-American boys like us want you. Maybe we will tie you to a tree and start a fire around you.”’

Andrea Dworkin

Anderea is talking about this video game:

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The description of the Video game below is very triggering and disturbing, if you’re easily triggered I’d advise you to not read it:

"The pornographic video game "Custer’s Revenge" generated many gang rapes of Native American women. In the game, men try to capture a "squaw," tie her to a tree, and rape her. In the sexually explicit game, the penis goes in and out, in and out."

The video game sold 80,000 copies.

(via angrywocunited)

What the actual fuck!!!!!??? 

(via knowledgeequalsblackpower)